Average Jane

Go. Away.

I ran into him in the elevator last night. Thankfully I had someone with me. I had told my neighbor about him just days before — showed her the note. Jewish herself, she was also confused. Concerned. So was her mom.

When we encountered him, he was decked head to toe in Tennessee Titans gear, replete with blue cammo pants. We made akward small talk in the elevator. He didn’t mention the 3″ Mr. Yogato stamp on my forehead.

After exiting the elevator, we walked toward our respective apartments, my friendly neighbor and I stalling otuside my door to visually identify his actual location on the floor. Location confirmed, I went into my apartment and locked the door.

I had a busy day today and was just about to get changed for the gym when there was a knock at my door. I had to move the magnetic white board to look through the peep hole. When I finally got a clear look, I saw a man in an officer’s uniform. I saw his badge. My heart sank – did someone report me for something? Had there been a burglary?

I opened the door.

It was him. In uniform. Badge. Gun.

“Hey there. Someone reported a disturbance. Heh heh.” My heart sank even more. Now, scared, I told him he shouldn’t do that. Ever. Never again.

“Oh, come on. I just wanted to see if you still had that stamp on your forehead.”

Nope. No stamp. That was for a discount at a place… Hey, so can you never do that again? Ever? Really. Don’t.

“I coulda put my hat on. Heh. Heh.”

OK – well, I have to go. Bye.

I shut the door and turned the lock as audibly as possible. My heart was pounding in my chest. I felt… queezy.

He showed up at my door in uniform with a gun. I know full well that I am blowing this up in my head — I do. But what if I’m not? Do you think I’m right to be a little creeped out? I live alone. He’s not my age. We have nothing in common — no reason to be friends. He clearly doesn’t understand appropriate boundaries for strangers.

I can’t help but thing that I’m blowing this up, but I remember Hey Pretty one said that I shouldn’t feel guilty about innappropriate behavior. And I think he’s being innappropriate. Should I report him to someone? At least make the leasing office aware of the situation?

I don’t know what to do, but avoiding a guy on a floor with 8 apartments isn’t easy. But instigating a situation by reporting him could be worse and could cost him his job. I don’t know what to do…


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  1. * DC Brownie says:

    I don’t know what you should do, either, but I would recommend that you read The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker as soon as possible — like today. The book is about trusting your gut and how to deal with inappropriate boundaries and recognize when a situation is dangerous.

    | Reply Posted 9 years, 4 months ago
  2. * Beach Bum says:

    The guy sounds creepy, but harmless, IMO.

    You can do like I do when I see someone weird in my hallway. I open my door and say “hey hon, how was your day? I missed you too” And have the conversation until my door is closed — so it looks like I don’t live by myself…

    | Reply Posted 9 years, 4 months ago
  3. I second DC Brownie’s opinion – read The Gift of Fear.

    | Reply Posted 9 years, 4 months ago
  4. * Andi says:

    Hey, I was going to recommend The Gift of Fear! That, and his other book, Protecting the Gift changed my life and the way I parent. Read The Gift of Fear.

    And trust yourself.

    | Reply Posted 9 years, 4 months ago
  5. * Eva says:

    I agree with everyone else. Trust your gut. If it says inappropriate to you tell the management company and if he doesn’t stop, tell the police.

    | Reply Posted 9 years, 4 months ago
  6. * KassyK says:

    I don’t know–he sounds pretty weird to me. Crossing boundries, gun in tow, inappropriate behavior? I would talk to your management company asap. I think trusting your instincts (like acknowledging you felt sick and scared when he left) is important in this kind of situation.

    Good luck. 🙂

    | Reply Posted 9 years, 4 months ago

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